When told your age, people say, “Gosh, you look GOOD.”


‘And other things that make you realize that you are really, truly, finally OLD.’

Dude Man had another birthday Sunday. But still, no matter how many birthdays he has, I will always have more.

His Dudeness celebrating his 70th birthday — six months after I did

See, I am six months older than Dr. Dude. I guess it didn’t bother him back when we met, because, well, we got married. And, no, I wasn’t an heiress or even a rich widow.

Of course, back when we met, I looked younger. Not just younger than I look now, but younger than most people my age. “You’re kidding” or even “You can’t be serious,” is what people would say on those rare occasions when I had to divulge my age. “You look much younger.”

Me, back when I wanted to look older than I really was. Gosh, that was a long time ago

Not anymore. Now, when pressed for my age or when I must recite my birthdate (something that happens with more and more frequency as I pick up a prescription or check in for an unpleasant test of some sort) I get no reaction. None.

But if I’m in a social situation where ages are shared, like when I celebrated my birthday on a birding trip to Brazil a couple of years ago, I get, “Gosh, you look GOOD” — with the “good” emphasized and sort of drawn out. Like GOOoood. Trust me, this doesn’t mean that you look “good.” It means that you look old. And if someone says, “You look amazing“? You might want to pick out your burial outfit.

I got a lot of “You look GOOOooods” that night. The cake helped. So did a few caipirinhas

Dude Man has yet to get “You look GOOOooood.” He’s much more likely to hear “Has anyone told you that you look like James Taylor?” Um, yeah. Like a zillion times. James Taylor’s brother Livingston even told him he looks like James Taylor. I’ve mentioned this doppelganger deal before, of course. In “I’ve Seen Fire and I’ve Seen Birthdays,” and “Sweet Baby Wayne,” among other posts.

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And if being told you look “good” isn’t bad enough, just wait until you’re mistaken for your parent’s sibling. Yup. That’s happened to me. More than once. And people don’t ask, “Are you two sisters?” No, they look at Mom and me and go, “Sisters, right?” (Check out the photo at the top of this post for irrefutable proof that this is the case.)

Oh well. It could be worse. People could mistake me for my Mom’s brother.

Happy Birthday, James. Er, Wayne. Er, Dude.

Dude (71) and Cousin Charlie (72) youthfully yuck it up on yet another birthday

Amagansett, New York. June 2024


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4 thoughts on “When told your age, people say, “Gosh, you look GOOD.”

  1. Madeleine Szabo

    Your mother looks incredibly goooood. Wow. And you no doubt will continue to look as goooood, as will The Child as she follows in your image. No doubt, “You’ve got a friend” in genes!

    A shout-out happy birthday to Dude “Taylor”. He has caught up with you (for six months anyway).

    • Hahahaha! You slay me, O Cousin of the Dude! I honest to god wish you lived closer. Though if you did, we’d laugh ourselves to death. So there’s that.

  2. It’s so funny that you mentioned that people tell you Dude man looks like JT, as I was thinking that myself after seeing just the first picture on this post. That picture of you as a youngster sure looks like your daughter too. You all have genes to be grateful for!

    • Hey Rhonda! I’ll tell you what I’m really grateful for: readers like you! Thanks so much for enjoying this post enough to comment. And for saying that Young Me resembles The Child. I, of course, think Her Childness is the most gorgeous person on the planet. Well, except for Dude Man/JT!

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